Mitch Albom quotes page 1
born May 23, 1958; American writer, journalist, TV and radio broadcaster, author of "Tuesdays with
"There is a big confusion in this country over what we want versus what we need,"
Morrie said. "You need food, you want a chocolate sundae. You have to be honest with
yourself. You don't need the latest sports car, you don't need the biggest house."
"The truth is, you don't get satisfaction from those things. You know what really gives you
"Offering others what you have to give."
No matter where you live, the biggest defect we human beings have is our shortsightedness.
We don't see what we could be. We should be looking at our potential, stretching ourselves
into everything we can become. But if you're surrounded by people who say "I want mine
now," you end up with a few people with everything and a military to keep the poor ones
from rising up and stealing it.
Nothing haunts us like the things we don't say.
If you're trying to show off for people at the top, forget it. They will look down at you
anyhow. And if you're trying to show off for people at the bottom, forget it. They will only
envy you. Status will get you nowhere. Only an open heart will allow you to float equally
The truth is, once you learn how to die, you learn how to live.
Holding anger is a poison... It eats you from inside... We think that by hating someone we
hurt them... But hatred is a curved blade... And the harm we do to others... we also do to
We're so wrapped up with egotistical things, career, family, having enough money, meeting
the mortgage, getting a new car, fixing the radiator when it breaks - we're involved in trillions
of little acts just to keep going. So we don't get into the habit of standing back and looking
at our lives and saying, Is this all? Is this all I want? Is something missing?
Death ends a life, not a relationship.
People haven't found meaning in their lives, so they're running all the time looking for it. They
think the next car, the next house, the next job. Then they find those things are empty, too,
and they keep running.
There are a few rules I know to be true about love and marriage: If you don't respect the
other person, you're gonna have a lot of trouble. If you don't know how to compromise,
you're gonna have a lot of trouble. If you can't talk openly about what goes on between you,
you're gonna have a lot of trouble. And if you don't have a common set of values in life,
you're gonna have a lot of trouble. Your values must be alike.
So many people walk around with a meaningless life. They seem half-asleep, even when
they're busy doing things they think are important. This is because they're chasing the wrong
things. The way you get meaning into your life is to devote yourself to loving others, devote
yourself to your community around you, and devote yourself to creating something that gives
you purpose and meaning.
The most important thing in life is to learn how to give out love, and to let it come in.
"Life is a series of pulls back and forth. You want to do one thing, but you are bound to do
something else. Something hurts you, yet you know it shouldn't. You take certain things for
granted, even when you know you should never take anything for granted. A tension of
opposites, like a pull on a rubber band. And most of us live somewhere in the middle."
Sounds like a wrestling match, I say.
"A wrestling match." He laughs. "Yes, you could describe life that way."
So which side wins, I ask?
"Which side wins?"
He smiles at me, the crinkled eyes, the crooked teeth.
"Love wins. Love always wins."
All endings are also beginnings. We just don't know it at the time.
Do the kinds of things that come from the heart. When you do, you won't be dissatisfied, you
won't be envious, you won't be longing for somebody else's things. On the contrary, you'll be
overwhelmed with what comes back.
I thought about all the people I knew who spent many of their waking hours feeling sorry for
themselves. How useful it would be to put a daily limit on self-pity. Just a few tearful
minutes, then on with the day.
Without love, we are birds with broken wings.
Love like rain, can nourish from above, drenching couples with soaking joy. But sometimes,
under the angry heat of life, love dries on the surface and must nourish from below, tending
to its roots, keeping itself alive.
There are no random acts. We are all connected. You can no more separate one life from
another, than you can separate a breeze from the wind.
"We've got a sort of brainwashing going on in our country," Morrie sighed. "Do you know how
they brainwash people? They repeat something over and over. And that's what we do in this
country. Owning things is good. More money is good. More property is good. More
commercialism is good. More is good. More is good. We repeat it - and have it repeated to us
- over and over until nobody bothers to even think otherwise. The average person is so
fogged up by all this, he has no perspective on what's really important anymore."
The culture we have does not make people feel good about themselves. And you have to be
strong enough to say if the culture doesn't work, don't buy it.
One day spent with someone you love can change everything.
But there's a story behind everything. How a picture got on a wall. How a scar got on your
face. Sometimes the stories are simple, and sometimes they are hard and heartbreaking. But
behind all your stories is always your mother's story, because hers is where yours begin.
You have to find what's good and true and beautiful in your life as it is now. Looking back
makes you competitive. And, age is not a competitive issue.
Turn on the faucet. Wash yourself with the emotion. It won't hurt you. It will only help. If
you let the fear inside, if you pull it on like a familiar shirt, then you can say to yourself, "All
right, it's just fear, I don't have to let it control me. I see it for what it is."
What is it about silence that makes people uneasy?
When you look into your mother's eyes, you know that is the purest love you can find on this