Ann Landers quotes page 1
Born Esther "Eppie" Pauline Freidman Lederer, she wrote her first column as Ann
Landers on October 16, 1955. During her 56 year reign as one of the most popular advice columnists of the 20th
century, thousands turned to her for advice on all types of problems. Eventually becoming copyright owner for the
name, although "Ann Landers" was a fictional character, "Eppie" made no overt effort to keep her real identify a
secret, unlike Ruth Crowley, who wrote the column for the first nine years. Although widely followed and revered
for her advice, "Ann Landers" was also known for her quick tongue; she was not afraid to deliver opinions that were
unpopular. There were several "of note" comments made by her which caused quite an uproar at the time. Most notably
among them, was the warning that she had given in a column in 1995 regarding safety of Halloween candy. Although
the warning was vague, it caused almost instant panic among parents of children who went trick- or- treating. "Ann
Landers" also caused an enormous scandal by supposedly championing gay rights behind the scenes, as far back as the
late fifties, yet describing homosexuality in her columns as "dysfunctional", "unnatural" and a "sickness." She was
firm on this issue until 1992, when she finally changed her opinion following extensive research into responses to
her statements. Several months after Lederer became the new "Ann Landers," her twin sister Pauline Phillips,
created a column very similar, "Dear Abby." This caused a large and lengthy rift between the twins. Before her
death, Lederer had decided that she wanted no one else to write the column. When she died in 2002, her last column
was run on July 27, and in keeping with Lederer's wishes, her daughter, Margo Howard, stated that the column had
The naked truth is always better than the best-dressed lie.
If I were asked to give what I consider the single most useful bit of
advice for all humanity, it
would be this: Expect trouble as an inevitable part of life. Look it squarely in the eye, and
say, "I will be bigger than you. You cannot defeat me."
Television has proved that people will look at anything rather than each other.
Keep in mind that the true measure of an individual is how he treats a person who can do him
absolutely no good.
Love is friendship that has caught fire. It is quiet understanding, mutual confidence, sharing
and forgiving. It is loyalty through good and bad times. It settles for less than perfection and
makes allowances for human weaknesses.
Some people believe holding on and hanging in there are signs of great strength. However,
there are times when it takes much more strength to know when to let go and then do it.
Problems are inevitable. Misery is a choice.
Class is an aura of confidence that is being sure without being cocky. Class has nothing to do
with money. Class never runs scared. It is self-discipline and self-knowledge. It's the
sure-footedness that comes with having proved you can meet life.
Nobody ever drowned in his own sweat.
Don't accept your dog's admiration as conclusive evidence that you are wonderful.
Opportunities are usually disguised as hard work, so most people don't recognize them.
Hanging onto resentment is letting someone you despise live rent-free in your head.
Don't give up. Keep going. There is always a chance that you stumble onto something terrific.
I have never heard of anyone stumbling over anything while he was sitting down.
Make somebody happy today, and mind your own business.
Sensual pleasures have the fleeting brilliance of a comet; a happy marriage has the tranquillity
of a lovely sunset.
It is not what you do for your children, but what you have taught them to do for themselves
that will make them successful human beings.
If you want to catch a trout, don't fish in a herring barrel.
If you have love in your life it can make up for a great many things you lack. If you don't have
it, no matter what else there is, it's not enough.
Nobody gets to live life backward. Look ahead, that is where your future lies.
One out of four people in this country is mentally imbalanced. Think of your three closest
friends and if they seem okay, then you're the one.
People who drink to drown their sorrow should be told that sorrow knows how to swim.
It is far better to be alone than to wish you were.
Rose-colored glasses are never made in bifocals. Nobody wants to read the small print in
Maturity: Be able to stick with a job until it is finished. Be able to bear an injustice without
having to get even. Be able to carry money without spending it. Do your duty without being
Inside every seventy-year-old is a thirty-five-year-old asking, "What happened?"
One of the best ways to measure people is to watch the way they behave when something
free is offered.
Asking a writer what he thinks about critics is like asking what a fire hydrant feels about
We need not fear life, because God is the ruler of all and we need not fear death, because He
shares immortality with us.
Expect trouble as an inevitable part of life and repeat to yourself, "The most comforting
words of all; this, too, shall pass."
Anyone who believes the competitive spirit in America is dead has never been in a
supermarket when the cashier opens another check-out line.
Nobody says you must laugh, but a sense of humor can help you overlook the unattractive,
tolerate the unpleasant, cope with the unexpected, and smile through the day.
No one has the right to destroy another person's belief by demanding empirical evidence.
The Lord gave us two ends - one to sit on and the other to think with. Success depends on
which one we use the most.